If you’re obsessed with travel like I am, chances are it takes up a large portion of your thoughts. We all tend to talk about the things we’re interested in, and since I spend a large portion of my free time and all of my spare income on travel, it can be said that I am most definitely interested in the topic.
That being said, not everybody is interested in hearing about travel. As a self-described travel nerd, I of course often have difficulty understanding why somebody wouldn’t want to hear about that amazing hike I did in Bryce Canyon, eating sushi in Japan, or the shark I saw while snorkeling on the Great Barrier Reef in Australia.
There are a few things that could be at play here.
They might be jealous.
When people haven’t been able to travel for one reason or another, I’ve often found they become jealous when I start talking about my travels. It may be that they simply can’t afford it, but often times they don’t understand the blood, sweat, and tears that went into me accomplishing my travel goals. The truth is, I make sacrifices that other people don’t make in order to travel. I’m extremely selective about when I will take a day off of work so I can save them up for travel instead, and when it comes to money, I save diligently and with discipline every single time I get paid, and I don’t dip into that savings for any reason other than to travel. A lot of people spend their money on luxuries like new shoes, new clothes, expensive car, etc. I don’t. All of that money goes towards traveling.
They just don’t understand.
Some people just don’t get why somebody would want to spend so much time, energy, and money on traveling. They might think it’s immature of you to spend your money on traveling when you could be doing more responsible things like buying a house. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to own a house, but given the choice between being able to own a house and being able to travel, I choose travel. Personally, I value life experiences over material things. It might be different for some people, but I want to look back on my life and think of all the things I got to enjoy.
Another thing I’ve encountered is people who are actually afraid to travel. I remember talking about travel with some friends at a party once and they mentioned they had never been to Europe. I told them that they need to go and that they would love it. I was met with blank stares about how scary they thought it was. But…we don’t speak the language. But…we don’t know how to get around. But…but….
…and we were only talking about Italy, which, for the record, I found to be an extremely easy country to get around in. When I told them we had nearly moved to Poland once, but the opportunity fell through, their eyes widened. We would be willing to actually move to Poland?!? Not only would I, but I was really disappointed that it didn’t work out. I’ll be keeping my eyes open to other opportunities to live abroad, though.
They are insecure.
Maybe they haven’t traveled as much as you have and they feel like you will look down on them because you’ve been to four continents and they have never left the Western United States. I would never look down on somebody for that, but some people are insecure about these things. When that happens, I try and assure them that someday they will get their chance and in the meantime, have they done anything fun lately? After all, California is pretty exciting to a lot of people so we’re all pretty lucky if we think about it.
So, next time somebody gives you that glazed over look when you start blabbing on about your latest adventure, just remember that they have their own things going on. If they are jealous, encourage them and maybe give them a few tips on how you did it on the cheap, if they are insecure, engage them in the conversation by asking them what fun things they like to do, and if they just don’t want to talk about travel, change the subject.