Stuck in a Rut? Travel!

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in a rut? I know I do. Sometimes, the routine of doing the same things day after day, driving to the same places, sitting at the same desk, eating at the same restaurants, and going out to the same places starts to get to me. It’s almost like a case of cabin fever, except the cabin isn’t just my home but the entire city. I get to a point where I need to get out and explore. I need to do something, anything, that’s out of my routine. It starts to ache I yearn for it so badly.


That’s when I know it’s time for me to travel again.

Of course, if I had my way I would do nothing but travel. I would be on the road 24/7 and my home would be wherever I had found a bed for the night. That’s simply not reality, though. Life finds a way of getting in the way of my becoming a full-time travel hobo.

Obviously, I need to work and make money so I can do things like eat and clothe myself. I need health insurance, because I’m not getting any younger. My husband, who I love more than anything, loves travel, but unlike me he doesn’t like the idea of becoming a broke travel hobo. Damn that stability!

I sometimes look at my life and I just want to book a flight somewhere, anywhere, and be free, but then that voice of responsibility comes back and reminds me that I have to at least attempt some semblance of adulthood.


I have big plans for the future. I’m going to be a digital nomad. I’m going to live abroad. I’m going to teach English in Thailand. I’m going to work for the U.S. Antarctic program. I’m going to buy a camper van and hit the open road. I’m going to take seasonal jobs in various national parks. I’m going to do so many things. Just not…yet. After all, I’ve got to save up an emergency fund. I’ve got to save for my retirement. I need health insurance. I don’t want to be away from my husband all the time.

Back and forth. Back and forth I go. Should I become a travel hobo? Should I settle down and buy a house? Back and forth. Back and forth. Such is the dilemma of the responsibly minded person who also has a hopeless case of wanderlust.

All I can really do is continue to craft a life that allows me to travel as much as possible, to take every opportunity to hit the open road, and to remind myself that my life is actually pretty good. Eventually these feelings pass and I look around, see the beautiful San Diego palm trees and sparkling Pacific Ocean, and I realize that yes, I am happy here.


I am happy here, but that doesn’t mean I don’t need to get out, too. Sadly, my life will always be a tug of war between building a life for myself and my need to run free. That’s the story of my life.

That’s why when I realize I’m stuck in a rut, I book a trip. I book a big trip to another country, a medium sized trip to see a friend in another state, or a small trip at an Airbnb I can drive to for the weekend. But I always book a trip.

Any of you ever feel this way?


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  1. Heather, you literally put into words how I feel sister! It’s a constant struggle between life, work, bills, family, dogs (what I call my normal life lol) and travel! However, I feel like we get the best of both worlds because we get to get out and explore a few times a year, yet always have the comforts of home when we return. The “tug of war” is a struggle! 🙂

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  2. Yep! Me too!

    My German husband likes to breathe as soon as we get home, doesn’t want to “rough it,” or spend more than three weeks! Sigh!

    Left to his own devices, he’d probably settle for two weeks, but as I always manage to drag him along kicking and screaming, travel solo, or take our son with me instead! As for me, as soon as I get home, I immediately start booking the next trip. In May & June, I literally came home spent a week, and then went off again!

    I had to slow down in September ‘cos of the beginning of school n’ stuff, but in October & November, we’re on the move again to the English countryside, with probably a few weekend trips in Germany added on too! I usually don’t travel in December as I have so many parties and Christmas Markets to go to, and I like the German festive vibe!

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    • I do the same thing with the next trip. If I don’t have something in the books, I get a little depressed.

      I would love to see the German Christmas markets. My parents will be there in December, traveling all around Germany and visiting the markets. I wanted to go with them but I’ll be in a wedding just before that so the timing didn’t work out, but I’ll get there one of these days!

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  3. They’ll have a great time. December is such a cosy time to visit. ‘Hopefully, it’ll be nice and cold, but I doubt it, as it’s far too warm these days but who cares? Grog and mulled wine is all that matters lol!

    ‘Hope you make it to Germany sometime soon!

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    • haha I’m sure they will think it’s cold….they live in L.A., after all! But I know they are definitely looking forward to it, and I’m looking forward to hearing all about it and seeing their pictures.

      In other news, looks like I might be making it to Germany pretty soon after all! With all the stuff that’s been going on with Catalonia lately, we decided to switch our trip this coming spring from Paris > Annecy (to visit a friend) > Barcelona, to Paris > Annecy > Strasbourg > Paris. Since Strasbourg is on the border with Germany, we’ll definitely be taking some day trips in to take a little peek around. Any suggestions for good places near the border? I’m thinking maybe Freiburg or Heidelberg, but it’s still in the planning stages and completely up in the air at the moment.

      Would love to explore more of Germany but sadly it will have to be a different trip, as the main purpose of this trip is to visit our friend in Annecy, and we’re on my husband’s work schedule so it’s a strict two week time period this time around.

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      • Nice one!

        Both Freiburg or Heidelberg are really lovely places but it’s been absolutely years since I was last there! However, I can recommend Heidelberg very much. It’s a university town and very much reminded me of York with it’s castle cobbled stones and architecture! You’ll like them both very much!

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